24 Sep My Biggest Public Speaking Tip!
Hello everyone! This is Sarai Jacobs. I would like to talk about this fear we have about public speaking, or even having this fear of talking in front of a camera.
I’ve heard many time from people that they are super afraid about this idea of talking in front of others and that they feel totally blocked. I have to say that, luckily, I’ve never had that, that big fear. I’ve been nervous. Every time that I’ve had to speak in front of a big audience. To be honest, I never thought that I would do it, but it turned out that, I spoke several times in front of many people. I’ve done it all, big audiences and small. And it is a totally different feeling, talking for an audience where you don’t really see the faces, then talking to an audience of 10 or 50 people where you can see everyone and where you can see everyone’s facial expression.
So if you’ve been asked to speak in front of an audience. Don’t be that afraid! Rather, be well prepared, because sometimes what happens is that with the nerves and with the context and the lights and all, you might forget what you are even there to say, but if you are struggling to talk in front of a smaller audience, which I can totally understand.There are some little tricks that you can do that might help you.
First of all, the way you hear your voice is not the same as how the audience is hearing your voice, because we internally hear a voice much differently than other people hear. That means that if you hear your voice and you think it sounds strange or you feel yourself very nervous. I can assure you, your audience is not hearing your nerves. It’s how you are seeing it and how you are feeling it, but it’s not how it’s necessarily arriving to the other person. Another point is also, if you feel super blushed, you might be a little bit, but usually we feel it much stronger than it really shows in our skin. So relax a little bit about that because, all this heat that you feel and all these nerves and fears that your voice sounds certainly different. Usually the internal perception of that is totally different to the external perception. This is not something that I’m making up. This is true!
This is how the body works. What I can also give you as a trick is that you don’t focus on the people who are not looking at you. If you find someone in the audience who’s really following you, try to connect with that person mostly, but then also, from time to time look at others because everyone wants to feel that they’re included in what you’re sharing with them. If you’re only focusing and looking at one person for the whole time, you might lose the connection with your audience because everyone wants to feel part of your speech. Another tip! Don’t look at someone that is looking somewhere else or that maybe fell asleep because that will make you even more insecure.
So tend to look at those people who are following you and who are connecting with you, because they’re the ones really engaging with what you’re saying. That will also give you motivation and give you more strength to share your message. If it’s helpful, really prepare what you’re going to say. To me, it’s best that I prepare for what I’m going to say, but then seconds before I go on stage, I don’t read it anymore. I just leave it on the side because it makes me even more nervous. I just try to integrate that to have a guideline, just the main bullet points that I want to talk about. And then if I remember this guideline, somehow I can talk about the rest of the information.
Also, if you’re sharing a presentation or if you’re sharing information that is new to others, they don’t know if you’re making a mistake. You might know because you make your script for your speech and outlined everything you wanted to cover beforehand. But don’t stress if you “left that out” or “you said that a little bit differently”. It’s more about how you perform and what you’re sharing than the exact information. Because you can always say “I’m gonna give you a brochure or you’re going to receive an email with further information where you can have all the details”. You have to understand the difference between reading an email or reading a catalog and listening to someone live. We have the opportunity, not only to share knowledge, but to share an emotion. And that is super powerful and super strong!
So use that. Focus more on sharing those emotions.
I hope that these little tricks help you! If you’re struggling with public speaking, at some point you will enjoy it. You will feel super comfortable about standing in front of a huge audience. Especially, if you’re aligned with the message you’re going to share. Make it yours!
Don’t just repeat words from others. Just use your words so that people really can connect with how you feel.
See you all next time!